Free attachment style quiz
What's your attachment style?
12 questions. About 2 minutes. Find out whether you run anxious, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant, or secure, and see your score for all four. Full results free on this page.
12 questions · about 2 minutes
Answer for your worst month, not your best self.
Rate 12 statements on a 1 to 5 scale. You get your full result on this page, free, with no account and no card.
What does this quiz measure?
Your attachment style is the pattern your nervous system runs when closeness feels threatened. It decides what you do when a text goes unanswered for three hours, when a fight ends with silence, and when someone gets close enough to actually hurt you. John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth mapped the system in children in the 1960s. Hazan and Shaver showed in 1987 that the same patterns run adult romantic relationships.
The quiz scores you on all four adult patterns at once. Most people are not a pure type. You get a primary style, and when your top two scores sit close together, the result tells you that too. The pattern that matters most is the one that shows up under stress, which is why the statements ask about your worst moments, not your average ones.
What are the four attachment styles?
Anxious
AnxiousYou crave closeness and reassurance. You may worry about your partner's feelings and seek frequent confirmation of their love.
- Core fear:
- Abandonment and rejection
- Core need:
- Reassurance and closeness
Dismissive Avoidant
AvoidantYou value independence and self-reliance. You may feel uncomfortable with too much closeness and need space to feel secure.
- Core fear:
- Engulfment and loss of independence
- Core need:
- Space and autonomy
Fearful Avoidant
FearfulYou desire intimacy but also fear it. You may oscillate between wanting closeness and pushing away when things feel too intense.
- Core fear:
- Both abandonment and engulfment
- Core need:
- Security with flexibility
Secure
SecureYou feel comfortable with intimacy and independence. You trust your partner and can communicate your needs openly while respecting theirs.
- Core fear:
- Generally low relationship anxiety
- Core need:
- Mutual respect and healthy interdependence
Fearful avoidant is the style researchers call disorganized. Same pattern, two names.
How do the 12 questions work?
The quiz presents 12 statements, 3 for each attachment style, in mixed order so you cannot pattern-match your way to a result. You rate each from 1 (“Not me at all”) to 5 (“This is so me”). Your style scores are the sums of their three statements, 15 points maximum each.
Your primary style is your highest score. When your top two scores land within 2 points of each other, the result is marked blended, because real people borrow from more than one pattern. A blended anxious and fearful avoidant result reads differently than a clean anxious one, and the guidance should too.
One honest note: any self-report quiz measures how you see yourself, on the day you take it. Answer for your worst month, not your best self, and the result gets much sharper.
What do you do with your result?
Knowing your style is the easy part. The hard part happens at 11pm with your thumb over the send button, when the insight evaporates and the pattern takes the wheel. That moment is what Olively is built for. It rewrites the text you drafted so your partner's style can hear it, and decodes the confusing message they sent so you respond instead of spiral.
It starts with the pairing. Your style plus your partner's style produces one of 16 dynamics, each with its own loop. Take the quiz above, add your partner's style, and Olively maps yours.
Questions people ask about attachment style quizzes
How accurate is this attachment style quiz?
It uses 12 statements, 3 per attachment style, each rated on a 1 to 5 scale. That is enough to identify your dominant pattern and flag when you blend two styles. It is a self-report tool for understanding your patterns, not a clinical diagnosis.
Is the quiz really free?
Yes. All 12 questions and your full results, including your score for each of the four styles, are free on this page. No account, no email, no card.
What is the difference between fearful avoidant and disorganized attachment?
Same pattern, two names. Researchers tend to say disorganized. Most modern writing says fearful avoidant. It combines the anxious fear of abandonment with the avoidant discomfort with closeness, which is why it feels like push and pull at the same time.
Can my attachment style change?
Yes. Attachment styles are learned patterns, not fixed diagnoses. With awareness and enough repeated safe experiences, people move toward secure attachment. Researchers call this earned security.
Should my partner take the quiz too?
If they are open to it. The pairing between your two styles predicts your conflict loop better than either style alone. An anxious partner with an avoidant partner fights a completely different fight than two anxious partners.
What happens after I get my result?
Your result stays on this page. If you want more, you can add your partner’s style and Olively maps how your two styles collide, then translates and decodes your real texts. Your quiz answers carry over so you never retake it.
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