What's your attachment style?

Your attachment style is the pattern your nervous system runs when closeness feels threatened. It affects how you read silence, conflict, distance, and repair.

The quiz scores all four adult patterns at once. Most people are not a pure type, so the result also flags close secondary scores.

The quiz presents 12 statements, 3 for each attachment style, in mixed order. You rate each from 1 to 5.

Your primary style is your highest score. When your top two scores land within 2 points of each other, the result is marked blended.

Answer for your worst month, not your best self, and the result gets sharper.

The result can tell you which pattern is loudest right now: how you tend to respond when closeness feels uncertain, and which alarm fires first under stress. That is genuinely useful, because the pattern is what writes your texts at 11pm.

It cannot diagnose you, measure your worth as a partner, or predict how a relationship will go. It is a 12-statement self-report, so it reflects the relationship and the month you answered it in. Treat it as a starting point for clearer conversations, not a verdict.

About one in three people score within a couple of points across two styles, and that is not a flaw in the quiz. Attachment runs on dimensions, not boxes, and plenty of adults genuinely live near a border: anxious with an avoidant streak under pressure, avoidant with an anxious side that only one specific person activates, or somewhere between secure and everything else on a good month.

A blended result is more useful than it first looks, because the two styles it names usually split by context. One pattern tends to lead early in relationships and the other under stress. One leads with a secure partner and the other with an unpredictable one. If your result says anxious with avoidant close behind, watch what you do after a fight: reaching for the phone points at the anxious side leading, going quiet and self-sufficient points at the avoidant side.

What to do with it tonight is the same as with a clean result, run the pattern against a real thread. Pick the last message exchange that left you unsettled and ask which alarm was doing the typing. The style that explains that moment is the one worth reading about first, and the result pages for both of your top scores are linked from your result screen. Treat the whole thing as a flashlight, not a filing system. The label matters less than what it lets you notice.

Attachment theory begins with John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, who studied how early bonds shape the way people seek safety. In 1987, Hazan and Shaver showed that the same patterns operate in adult romantic relationships, and Bartholomew and Horowitz later mapped them into the four adult styles this quiz uses. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller brought the model to a wide audience with Attached.

Modern research measures adult attachment with longer self-report scales in the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) tradition. This quiz is a short 12-statement screener built on the same four-style model. It is designed to point you to the right pattern quickly, not to replace the research instruments.

If you scored anxious: pause before the protest text. Write the fear down privately, then send one direct, answerable ask instead.

If you scored dismissive avoidant: replace silent distance with stated distance. Name the space you need and name when you will be back.

If you scored fearful avoidant: say the swing out loud instead of acting it out. Wanting closeness and wanting out can both be true, and naming it beats disappearing.

If you scored secure: your consistency is the intervention. Send the message that carries both a connection cue and a time cue.

Knowing your style is the easy part. The hard part is the moment your thumb is over the send button and the pattern takes the wheel.

Olively is built for that moment. It rewrites what you drafted so your partner's style can hear it, and decodes confusing replies so you respond instead of spiral.